the celestine prophecy by james redfield

I once bought a deli sandwich to split with my son. He could question me at length about anything, even something as simple as grocery shopping: “How could it take you so long to shop for food? How much did you spend this week? How could you be so extravagant? Were all those purchases really necessary? Did we need two kinds of lettuce AND tomatoes? etc. Sometimes I wondered what kind of perverse pleasure he got out of finding me so inadequate. I’m convinced that James Redfield coined the term after meeting him! A critical man, my ex continually poked and prodded and found fault in everything I said or did. For example, my former husband was a classic interrogator. It is usually easy to pick out our partner’s drama, but rarely do we recognize how we play into it.

Marilyn: Control dramas are a fascinating phenomena within a relationship. How does this play out in a relationship? What we are attempting to do is protect our beliefs. Then, believing we are right and they are wrong, we think that we have the right to impose our beliefs on them. When people do things we don’t like, or when we’re not getting our way, we think they are wrong. We attempt to control and manipulate others because we believe that if they would change their behavior we would be happy and so would they. What is this need we have to control? Why do we feel it is necessary? All are attempts to control another’s behavior. The above description from James Redfield’s book,The Celestine Prophecy, defines four ways that people are in relationship with one another. And poor me’s make us feel guilty and responsible for them. Aloof people attract attention (and energy) to themselves by acting reserved or withdrawing. Interrogators steal it by judging and questioning. All humans, because of their upbringing, tend toward one of the four “control dramas”: intimidators steal energy from others by threat. The sixth insight states that childhood dramas block our ability to fully experience the mystical. The Celestine Prophecy’s 4 Control Dramas

The celestine prophecy by james redfield